Chat with woman who like spanking games

24-Jan-2018 12:47

(While he's also into spanking, Margaret is open about the fact that this is her second marriage and that her first broke up in large part because her ex didn't share her kink.)For all that both SSNY and SCONY throw parties at New York's Lesbian Gay Center, the spanking scene is, for the most part, straight.Even the people I hear stories about who walk the line -- like a top executive who arrives at and leaves Paddles in a fine suit but in between wears French maid and schoolgirl outfits while he's spanked by a variety of men -- live straight lives.," Elvis' "Blue Hawaii," "Bonanza" and "The Little Rascals" seem to have been quite popular) and mention how they would look up the word "spanking" in the dictionary just to get the temporary thrill that would come from simply seeing the definition written out.They didn't have anywhere to go until the '80s, when clubs like Hellfire, the Vault and Paddles opened in New York (of those, Paddles is the only one still standing)."It's like if a woman who had a rape fantasy suddenly had a guy going, ' Are you OK? Sex ruins the fantasy, and if it's not 100 percent not sexual, it feels like incest." (At the same time, Jules admits that she fantasizes about being spanked when she masturbates and that she's gotten wet while being spanked.) Still, people do not, for the most part, have sex at the parties, nor do they tend to pair off and have sex afterward. Time and time again, the spankos I interview tell me they were fascinated with spanking from a young age and thought they were alone with this obsession.They cite movies and TV shows with spanking scenes that captivated them as children (a 1963 John Wayne movie called "Mc Lintock!

But while many of the people I spoke to for this piece were spanked when they were little, just as many were not.The scent of cold cuts wafts under my nose as I add, "I am vanilla.A vanilla."The reason I'm standing on the third floor of the Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Center in the West Village defending my kink-free life is that Jessica, a playwright I know, has brought me here after swearing that this was a community worth writing about."In a world where everyone is obsessed with being skinny," someone tells me later, "this is one place where people want big butts over cute little ones."It seems, in fact, that there's only one thing to be ashamed of in this environment, and that's being someone without a kink -- a vanilla.And it takes our group's comparatively handsome would-be spanker about 20 seconds to diagnose us, correctly, with this malady. Then I realize I don't know if "vanilla" in this context is a noun or an adjective (is it "I'm not a vanilla" or "I'm not vanilla"?

But while many of the people I spoke to for this piece were spanked when they were little, just as many were not.The scent of cold cuts wafts under my nose as I add, "I am vanilla.A vanilla."The reason I'm standing on the third floor of the Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Center in the West Village defending my kink-free life is that Jessica, a playwright I know, has brought me here after swearing that this was a community worth writing about."In a world where everyone is obsessed with being skinny," someone tells me later, "this is one place where people want big butts over cute little ones."It seems, in fact, that there's only one thing to be ashamed of in this environment, and that's being someone without a kink -- a vanilla.And it takes our group's comparatively handsome would-be spanker about 20 seconds to diagnose us, correctly, with this malady. Then I realize I don't know if "vanilla" in this context is a noun or an adjective (is it "I'm not a vanilla" or "I'm not vanilla"?"His wife," says the person who tells me about the guy, "knows nothing about it."So what makes some people want to show up on a Saturday night and have their butt whacked?